It’s very hard to find a church in Dallas.
I know, there are like a million in the Dallas area. I’m right in the middle of the Bible-Belt.
Ironically, that doesn’t make it any easier to find a church.
Autumn and I have been to many, many churches looking for the perfect place to call home. People our age are leaving church at alarming rates, for reasons that can be found here, but I still think it’s important to be in church. I’ll admit that I am not excited about it. I have been let down by churches many times, and every one we try that becomes a dead end just makes us more discouraged about the whole process. Added to the fact that we really don’t know how to find a church (is there a step-by-step process?) and it just becomes a crazy, stressful venture. So I’m reaching out to you guys for suggestions.
There are a few things we are looking for in a church:
1.) They must be loving- I don’t only mean towards me and my fellow church members, but also to those on the outside. I don’t want to hear any gay-bashing, cynicism, or ignorance. Everyone is to be treated with love.
2.) They must preach the Bible- This seems obvious, but it’s surprising to me how many churches don’t crack open a Bible on Sunday Morning.
3.) The music has to be decent- I understand accepting anyone into the music team who wants to be there, but if their voice is awful, it’s going to take away from the process.
4.) There needs to be a range of ages- I don’t want to go to a church of young people. Nor do I want to be surrounded by old people. I want all ages, to become friends with many generations. I want to hear war stories, bits of wisdom, from those who have gone before and can tell me what does and does not work.
5.) Don’t be too trendy with the name- If your church name ends in “e”, (i.e. CrossPointe) the chances of me going exponentially decrease. Also, having “Life” or “Experience” in the title doesn’t help either. Can it just be called a church?
There are some things on this list that I would be willing to bend on, but that’s pretty much how I’m filtering.
How do you go about finding a church? Any points I missed? Am I being too picky?